I am nearing the end of my separation period with my soon-to-be ex-wife with the intent of finalizing the divorce as soon as possible after the Year+1 day rule is satisfied. Part of this horrendous last year or so has been the revelation that she was a serial adulteress. I have sworn depositions by her and one of her lovers confessing to their affair - as well as her admission to having other lovers during the same period.
I would like to file Alienation of Affection and Criminal Conversation lawsuits against one or more of her lovers and would have to believe that since I have sworn depositions (given under oath as part of a dismissed and bogus domestic violence action she took as a strategic step to try to gain the upper hand in the divorce proceedings) where admissions and motivations are discussed under oath that my case would seem relatively bulletproof. I understand the difficulty in collecting a judgement as well as the costs of attorneys - - but believe that if I do this on my own I could potentially save the attorney costs and just have to incur the cost of my time to either gain or negotiation a settlement.
My questions are this…
Can I file a lawsuit for AofA and CC on my own and is there a self-help website or something that can walk me through the necessary forms? The cost of engaging a lawyer is horrendous especially for something that I have already paid for in my opinion once (the DV case which was dismissed with prejudice cost me a gigantic amount of money but resulted in the depositions that I believe are ample evidence to prove my case for AofA and CC against the lovers).
Can I simply send a letter to the lovers threatening a lawsuit along with a description or potentially even a copy of the evidence I have as a way to entice them to monetarily settle the case without a lawsuit being filed? My fear with this approach would be is if this would be considered extortion or blackmail as I certainly do not want to break the law.
Thank you in advance for your help.