your child is definately suffering from neglect (dental is obvious)Call social sevices. Advocate for your child. See if you can get medicaid for her… then take her to the dentist. I assume you do not have custody. What is the age of the great grand mother? Is she physically able to take care of a child. Talk to the school social worker. Fight for your child. You need to get her out of this situation, even if they do not grant you custody. Do you have family that can vouch for you? Are you financially stable? Are you emotionally stable? Do you have a stable household? File for custody modification. Ask the school councelor for help. They have access to programs and people who can help. Good Luck and keep us updated.
no i do not have custody right now. her great grandmother is 69 years old but looks to be around 90. she weighs 87 lbs and my ex and his new wife have 3 kids not including ours together they just throw those kids off on her to, so she has children everyday with the ages of 7, 4, 2, &4 months i have family that can vouch for me, they just dont wanna get involved, because my ex is dangerous. i am a former medical specialist in the uscg so yes i am mentally stable. i have a 5 bedroom house.
Go to Children’s services (preferably with photographic evidence or your daughter in tow) and go to Child support. Tell them you need an emergency custody order for the safety of your child. I believe that the court will allow you to do this for no charge. If you’re still in the military, contact the closest military base and schedule an appointment with JAG for further help.
If you know that your child is being abused then go here:
Select your county and call Child Protective Services immediately.
Fight like hell for your child… but may God have mercy on you if you are making up a false abuse allegation to spite your ex.
Idontknowwhattodo, I have the feeling you’re not telling us the whole story here… why in the world did the great grandmother of all people gain custody of YOUR daughter? I understand why the father didn’t gain custody, he’s abusive and not mentally well and a drug addict.
But what about you? Was the great grandmother just a witness in court and then given a temporary custody order, or was she fighting you for custody?
I just don’t understand why a parent, who has rights paramount to anyone else, didn’t win custody unless there’s something they were saying about you.
I am not judging you because my bf is in a similar situation. Over 3 years ago his wife and he seperated, and they went to court to argue over custody of their daughter. He brought his mother to court with him and let her do all the talking… during the marriage, his mother constantly called social services on his wife (just a bunch of lies). And his wife had him committed for 2 days because he is bipolar and at the time wasn’t stable on any meds. So guess what? Although his mom was not a party to the action, she ended up recieving temporary custody and now refuses to give her up. What happened in your case?
i went to court for custody for my then 5 year old daughter in september or 2005. i had pictures of bruises and black eyes and hospital statements stating from the dr. that she had been abused. i also have my exs criminal background statements, including bresking and entering, possestion of marijuana and alcohol under age, assault and battery, tresspassing, and i have 37 pages of these things that have been noted in a period of 3 years. when we went to court i could not afford a lawyer so i had to try to represent myself. i asked the judge to give him a drug screen. he tested positive for marijuana, cocaine, and herion. i tested negative for everything. i have never done drugs and never plan to, nor do i drink, except maybe a glass of wine on holidays. her four front teeth had to be surgiclally removed. according to the dentist her teeth were non restorable. she has not been back since and she has at least 8 cavities that i can see on the bottom with my own eyes. so if anyone knows a cheap dentise that is open after 4 on fridays or open on saturdays let me know. the judge would not let me prove any of this before he gave her great grandmother was granted custody of her. she is now 7 years old. her father has been proven to be bi-polar. now my daughter is showing signs of it. i have statements from her school stateing that she almost failed kindergarden and the first grade and she is now failing the second grade. they had to put her in special ed classes, which she doesnt need to be in. school statements also say that they are worried about her disturbing homelife sisuation. neighbors are telling me that she is left home alone on many occasions. i have her on the weekends and when i take her back she screams that she doesnt want to go back that she is scared. i have researched the schools out here and have found out that currituck county schools are in the top 10 in the state. she wished to live with me but i know that doesnt stand in court since there is an age requirement. i need any advice anyone can give me. i have gone to legal aid and all they can do is give me advice. does anyone know of a lawyer that can do payment plans with low deposit payment. i am in desperate need of help. i dont know if i have to file in va which is where she lives or in nc where i live. if it is in va does anyone know of a lawyer that could help me…
DESPERATELY NEED HELP BEFORE SHE ENDES UP REALLY HURT
You have constantly asked this same question many times over. UNTIL THE COURT ORDER IS CHANGED, THE COURT ORDER IS IN FULL FORCE AND EFFECT PERIOD NEITHER THE DAUGHTER NOR THE MOTHER CAN CHANGE THIS GET TO A LAWYER AND GET THIS IN COURT THERE IS NOTHING ELSE YOU CAN DO YOU ARE ENTITLED TO YOUR VISITATION WHETHER THE DAUGHTER/MOTHER LIKES IT OR NOT YOU HAVE TO GET A LAWYER TO HELP YOU YOU HAVE NO CHOICE
Yes, don’t make up abuses. Even if he can’t prove it he won’t know who to believe and the judge may not believe everything you say even if he can’t prove its wrong or not.
Sorry to hear of your situation. It’s difficult enough that you are divorce due to spousal abuse, but for your child to live somewhere else and not with you is just killer. Like everybody in this board, you should fight for your child 'til the end. Aside from consulting with attorneys and seeking for legal advice, I suggest you check out this child support calculator below and see if you could get custody of your child through this mean. Hope this helps and good luck.
If my child was the one being abused I would try my best to remove my child from that situation and probably try to cause physical harm to the abuser or make sure that person is punished. If my child was the abuser I would talk to them try to find them some kind of counseling and probably convince their partner to leave them.