I am really sorry to hear about your situation. Fortunately, you found our website, and this is the forum on which you can ask questions.
Based on what you’ve told me, you may have a problem with the order. Generally, until the judge has signed the order, it is not effective. Unless the judge specifically notes in the order that it should date back to a certain date, which would make him liable for those 2 months he’s missed, he won’t have to pay until the order is signed. You should have your attorney contact the judge’s office to find out if the order has been signed, and when it will be effective.
As far as your visitation schedule, the way to have the current schedule modified is to be able to show the court that there has been a substantial change in circumstances. Unfortunately, it doesn’t sound like there has been any change that would warrant a judge changing the current set up. What you might want to do is to keep a journal of the visits and what occurs on those visits over the next several months. If you can show the court a clear pattern of missed visits, or visits that were spent mostly in day care, you may be able to convince a judge that reducing the visitation to your former husband is reasonable. It may take you a while to document this, so be patient.
Shonnese D. Stanback
The Rosen Law Firm
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