I dont know what else to do! some1 please help!


#1

I am goingthroug a horrible divorce…

Look at a VERY KEY point you made in your post.
“We don’t have any kids, just two dogs” (somethingti that effect)
Do you have endure further excruciating, extremely expensive CUTODY battle, when you do decide to divorce?

You said, “I just can’t take this anymore.”

OK, then.

I was so trapped and in a couldn’t take it anymore position for many years in my marriage. And, now I to deal with my very rich husband going all out to get FULL CUTODY of the kids.

I hear you. NO one cares, or really helps. Support groups end up making me feel worse. I AM ALSO HERE ALL LONE AND EXTREMELY CONFUSED AND UPSET. I can’t find any help either. I just can’t seem to find people who really do care.

All I can say is, look a the fact the fact you don’t have any kids right now…


#2

Hi to both
I know it is very hard to get over this I had to do this I know my STBX at that time 19yrs and married 17yrs wow time flies but the thing is I am so much better off without her and I even told her this and this put her in shock and she started to cry when I told her this.
I was not wanting to do this to her but I wanted her to know that for the first time I feel so much better when we where together I did all the cooking cleaning taking care of the children and when she came home she had dinner ready for her she had it made with me and I told her that too.
I am not mad just well over her and wanting my divorce so badly so I can move on with my new life its time
She knows she has messed up by leave me she said it and I know if I was to say cameback she would. I do not deal with losers sorry and never will thats why I do not want her back.
Sorry got carried away with this
But you are right there is very little help but you can find help in a lot of things like exercising, meditation eating the right foods this is all a start but one is better GOD look into him I did all that and it helped me out very much and I hope this will help you both out in the long run this will be the best thing for you it just takes time it did for me now its time for me to find the woman of my dreams and soon we will both meet and I jsut can not wait but until then I wait.
Hope this helped you out
Good luck to the both


#3

Amen! Well said.


#4

Thank you
There is someone who feels the same way as I do [:D]
Today the STBX wants to talk to me what about MONEY and how bad she is doing. The old story DRAMA
She wanted this not me and now she now sees the light LOL.
Like I told her you started this NOT me now YOU must stop it I just hope how she will open her eyes and see the light and maybe things will work out. Not to get back with me I will never take her back.
I hope all the best of luck and let GOD help you see the light
Thank you


#5

IM 21 YEARS OLD AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 2 YEARS. MY HUSBAND AND I GOT INTO A REALLY BAD CAR ACCIDENT A WEEK AFTER OUR WEDDING AND I HAVE HAD PANIC ATTACKS EVER SINCE. WELL NEEDLESS TO SAY THE CONSTANT BICKERING STARTED AND HURTFUL WORDS TOWARDS EACH OTHER. THEN WE GOT PHYSICAL WITH EACH OTHER! I HIT HIM FIRST AND THEN HE RETALIATED AND TO THIS DAY I STILL HAVE A SCAR ON MY ARM. IT WASNT THE LAST TIME THAT IT HAPPENED. THERE IS DOCUMENTAION OF ALL OF THE TIMES BOTH OF US WHERE PHYSICAL WITH EACH OTHER. I HAVE BEEN SEXUALLY, MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSED BY MY HUSBAND!!! I HAVENT BEEN PERFECT IN OUR RELATIONSHIP EITHER I WOULD RETAILATE RIGHT BACK JUST TO HURT HIM FOR HURTING ME!!! (CHILDISH I KNOW)THEN THE PORNOGRAPHY CAME INTO PLAY TO OUR MARRIAGE! FOUR TIMES NOW I HAVE CAUGHT HIM LOOKING AT IT! I DO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IT!! WHY WOULD HE NEED TO LOOK AT THAT??? I DONT GET IT??? I DONT DO ANYTHING OR WORK BECAUSE IM CONSTANTLY STRESSED OUT WITH MY MARRIAGE THAT THE LITTLEST THING OUTSIDE OF THE MARRIAGE TRIGGERS A PANIC ATTACK! IM SO STUCK ON NOT TAKING MEDICATION! I WANT TO GET PAST IT ON MY OWN! I FEEL LIKE I HAVE SACRIFICED MY SANITY TO CONTINUE TO BE IN THIS MARRAIGE AND EVERY TIME HE “MESSES UP” LIKE THAT HE SOMEHOW SUCKS ME RIGHT BACK IN!!! THE SADEST PART IS THAT I DONT THINK ANYMORE THAT I CAN GET ANYTHING BETTER THAN HIM!!! WE DONT HAVE ANY KIDS JUST OUR DOGS!!! THERE MY LIFE!! THEY HAVE BEEN WITH ME THROUGH EVERY FIGHT EVERY TEAR AND EVERY DEPLOYMENT THAT MAN HAS EVER MADE!!! THROUGH ALL THIS THE MILITARY HASNT REALLY BEEN THAT BIG OF A HELP!!! THERE FAMILY SUPPORT CENTER SUCKS ASS!!! I HAVE EVEN WENT OUT TO SEEK INDIVIDUAL COUNSELING FOR MY ANXIETY AND THEY WOULDNT ACCEPT ME AT THE SUPPORT CENTER BECAUSE I WAS A DEPENDENT!!! SOME FAMILY SUPPORT CENTER!!! TRICARES LIST OF COUNSELORS SUCK!!! THEY ARE EITHER RUDE, MORE MESSED UP THAN ME, OR HAVE SOMETHING AGAINST THE MILITARY!!! I CANT TELL YOU HOW MANY I HAVE GONE TO! ITS NOT LIKE I HAVENT TRIED!!! IM SO SCARED THAT IF DIVORCE IS THE ROAD I CHOOSE THAT HES GUNNA GET EVERYTHING AND AND I WILL HAVE NOTHING!!! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! I NEED SOMEONE TO PLEASE HELP ME!!! I CANT TAKE THIS ANYMORE!!!