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I have not been up here in a while…because things have been somewhat “normal” if you can call it that! Got a few questions now:

  1. My ex husband, dad to my 8 yr old son, is threatening taking me to court for living with a man. First off, we have been together 3 years total now, and living together 2 years. He is WONDERFUL to my son. He does more for him than his own dad. Well, the “dad” is a little jealous I think, and is now “engaged” and is trying to throw up all kinds of little things in my face to try to lower child support, and have custody. What can I do? Can he legally do anything to me after all this time?

  2. He now all of a sudden wants our son this summer, for the WHOLE summer and has just now informed me of this. I already had him a sport in summer camp. Cannot get my $ back…what should I do??? He has NEVER wanted him a whole summer. What should I do, what can I do?

all suggestions appreciated!

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1.is your support court ordered? if so, he cannot lower the amount just because he is jealous.
2. if you have already enrolled the child in a camp, you should send him to the camp. tell the ex bluntly that you are doing this. you paid for this based on how your custody has been.
if the ex has an issue, he can try to get the visitation court ordered, but honestly, from your brief description, i doubt he would do it. besides, the courts would recognize his behavior, as it is pretty common. he is playing games, not acting out of interest for the child/

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[quote=“singlemomof1”]I have not been up here in a while…because things have been somewhat “normal” if you can call it that! Got a few questions now:

  1. My ex husband, dad to my 8 yr old son, is threatening taking me to court for living with a man. First off, we have been together 3 years total now, and living together 2 years. He is WONDERFUL to my son. He does more for him than his own dad. Well, the “dad” is a little jealous I think, and is now “engaged” and is trying to throw up all kinds of little things in my face to try to lower child support, and have custody. What can I do? Can he legally do anything to me after all this time?
    ****What does your order state? My brother lost custody of his child for a period of time because he was living with the woman he eventually married but my former SIL was able to get the child removed from his home due to an inappropriate (unmarried and living together) household and him being of ‘tender years’ and he was 7 when this happened. My brother could only see him outside of his home until they married when my nephew was almost 9. If you have been living with the guy for 2 years, why are you not married? I personally would never live with a man I was not married to and actually supported my former SIL in court, not my brother. And many other people in NC still embrace traditional values. I know of several other cases in NC where custody was changed based on living together without the benefit of marriage. You might want to tread lightly on this one, however the one thing in your favor is that this has gone on for 2 years. My SIL filed paperwork with the courts the very first day she found out about it. His having let it slide for 2 years will not be in his favor.

  2. He now all of a sudden wants our son this summer, for the WHOLE summer and has just now informed me of this. I already had him a sport in summer camp. Cannot get my $ back…what should I do??? He has NEVER wanted him a whole summer. What should I do, what can I do?
    *********What does your agreement say? Is it a situation where he has him for the summer and has not exercised this right before or he just simply wants him? If he gets him for say, 2 weeks in the summer, then I say tough cookies to him. The money is a side issue. The real issue is why now suddenly is he looking for a whole summer?

I see you wrote this earlier in the year, I would be very interested to know how it all shook out in the end.

all suggestions appreciated![/quote]

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Hello,
Thnk for sharing your story. Firstly I ask you one thing why didn’t you marry with that person?? You are living with him from last two years. And about your son he wanting him for whole summer. It depends on your agreement what are the condition mention on it.

Best Wishes…

Thanks Regards…