You seem to be the primary care giver correct? You feed, dress, clean, and take care of your daughter emotionally? A man in the military is going to have a tough battle taking an 8 month old baby from “mommy”. He “can” persue visitation. Was your child born in NC? NC’s law is focused primarily on the “best interests of the child”. A man being stationed here, and there… Not likely he will take your baby.
He can't keep you anywhere. If you and your baby need to leave, I suggest you come back to the states however you can. From that stand point, if he comes to get you or the baby.. Call the police. No police officer is going to take a baby away from mom, to give to dad unless you seem unfit. Honey, let no man intimidate you.