My marriage seems typical as I have heard many stories at work of divorces and why they happened.
She seemed to love me and did a lot for me before marriage and then after she got what she wanted during the first part of our marraige she now seems to care little about me. Very little love or affection. I am a very compassionate person and love a good hug.
When I needed to get to the Dr. for an urgent situation in which I didn’t need to drive. I asked her for help and she just shouted at me “What do you expect me to do”. Needless to say I had to walk through the neighbothood to find a ride to the Surgical center 100 miles away for an urgent surgery. I have tons of other signs that she could care less about me or the kids or even her own mother. She has threatened to “pack my bags and put them on the front porch”. I now know that in NC she can not legally do this unless I threaten her or hit her. She is a very good lier especially about money. And would not have a problem lying to a cop or judge to get me out.
I am in a lot of debt do to her lies, surgery expenses and my own stupidity. I asked her to sit down with me and help me with my bills but she only got mad. We still have seperate checking accounts and pay certain bills each. I sought financial help from the bank where I have a second mortgage to make her car payments and they have found a long term solution to my problems.
I do not want a divorce because I still love her and I don’t want my kids to have to go through this. She doesn’t seem to care.
Now for the questions…
How can I prepare myself for divorce as well as avoid it?
She has plenty of money in many accounts from her Dads death as well as another house. I don’t want any of this, but if I could use the fact that she could loose most of this in a divorce then maybe the next time she gets mad and trys to kick me out I can use the info. gained from here to change her mind. If she knows that she could loose several hundred thousand in dollars maybe she would change her mind.
What kind of advice can y’all offer me. What kind of questions should I ask an attorney and what kind of info. should I be looking at finding out.
Any help would be appreciated.
Trying to get prepared