Greetings. First, you need to ask yourself if this child is not biologically yours and you are still ordered to pay child support, will you? Now, if the answer is yes, continue to pay, but if the answer is no, then petition for a paternity test and get your answer. The court can mandate a paternity test, but you have a limited window of when you can request one and when you cannot one.
Sure, there are always legal ways to resolve things out of court. First, you may want to hire an attorney. They can talk to your ex (or your ex’s attorney) and help negotiate a resolution to the custody situation.
The bottom line is that if you want your rights to your child, get them, since you cannot regain any time you lose with a child. Best of luck.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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