Greetings. First, why doesn’t your attorney set the alimony trial for the same day as the post separation support hearing?
Next, the law on post separation says that you can bring up acts of marital misconduct at the post separation support hearing. Have you already done a Request for Admissions?
Finally, you will not win primary custody simply because with child support you believe she cannot support the kids. She can always ask to deviate upwards from the child support guidelines to get more money, and the court will award it if she needs it for the children. If the court orders a deviation upwards, you would be better off (probably) paying alimony for tax purposes. Best of luck.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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