Separation/Dating


#1

I am separated from my husband. I have a new boyfriend. We are serious and I have introduced him to my children. My ex feels it is not the appropriate time, but this man is not a fling and I have not introduced my children to any other man. He also sleeps over occasionally. My ex is threatening to take my 50% custody away from me by telling me I am unfit to allow a man to sleep over. Should I be concerned or is this not really anything to worry about? I met this man after I moved out. Frankly, I think he has a bruised ego and is lashing out.

Other background, I left my husband because he had an affair. I only have proof of one affair. I washed the woman’s panties in with my own and he admitted it in emails to me which I have saved. He had a history of other inappropriate behavior during our marriage. I have introduced this man as nothing more than my friend, not even addressed him as a boyfriend. Obviously, I need to get a lawyer but in the interim will the court really take away my children?


#2

Your ex may try and have custody changed based on your new boyfriend and the sleeping arrangements. To modify custody the movant must demonstrate there has been a substantial change in circumstances affecting the welfare of the children.
In my opinion your ex does not have a good basis to make such a motion, unless your new partner is a danger to the children, but I cannot speak to the attitudes of the judges in your county.
His affair is not relevant as related to what he is trying to do now.