Ok, I get it…“Get a Lawyer” I will when I have the cash next month…until then…help me sleep by answering some of these questions
My ex and I have had a written agreement for child support since Feb. 2008. She gets $500 bi-weekly in child support. This is not through the State. Done privetly amongst us. Both signed
My Ex lives in Ohio now. She took the kids from me December 2009.
I pay my Family to watch my kids 2 weeks in a row, then their mother has them 2 weeks in a row. I visit once or twice a month for 3 to 4 days at a time.
I had/have cancer and could not argue keeping the kids with me since I barely could take care of my self. Both our families live in Ohio in the town the kids live in. I had major surgery for the disease and now I am in recovery. I’ll be out of docs care around December (hopefully) which is when I plan to move back to Ohio and get a job.
We never had a divorce.
She Wants a divorce (fine with me) and she wants to get child support “finalized” through the state.
She has a boyfriend in a different state.
Questions:
If I do not recover and have to quit my job and move back North, will that agreement or state child support force me to pay her if I can’t work?
Which State should Child Support be set up in?
Should I get this set up before she goes and does it? (will it be a negative if she does it first)
If the state decides through calcs that I should pay less than what I am now, will I pay less?
Is paying my family money considered work related child care expenses? (I give them $1000 a month)
Since I have my days covered with family watching the kids, is this okay while I recover? (for being counted as 50/50)
Does the state even give a damn that I was sick when she took the kids or that I am recovering 700 miles from the kids?
Can she move the kids to a different state if she marries her BF? (Other than Ohio where they are now and where I’ll be moving back to?)
Can I legally do anything to her for taking the kids from me when I was on my death bed?
Now that I’m getting better and life doesn’t suck, I’m looking back and feeling like I have been screwed sideways by the ex.