Ok I love my wife very very much. We have been together for 3 years. We have a 2 year old son together. I will say this, I have never ever abused my wife or abused my son physically. There were times that I would come home from work and things would not be done around the house and i would get mad. But I never Hit her or my son. I love both my son and my wife very very much. The past year we have been living in a apartment in Fayetteville, NC. I was the only one working for the whole year. I became very selfish with my money and with my time when I would get home from work. Meaning I would never spend money on her or my son. It was getting to the point that the bills were getting behind and I could not afford to keep the lights on. Well on August 25th My wife left me and took our 2 year old son. She moved 2 hours away to live with her parents. SHe would email me telling me she was so sorry all this had to happen the way it did. 2 weeks after she left I went to see her and my son. We spent the weekend together and had a wonderful time and I asked her if she would be willing to give me a second chance and she said she would. We made love like we always did(we have always had a great sex life). When I was there with her and my son she would tell me that she loves me and still wants to try to work everything out and she stil wanted to be with me. I was very very hurt by her leaving and the week after seeing her and my son we were on the phone and I asked her if she still wanted to work this out and she said no. She kept telling me all the things that I did wrong and laying every single blame on me. I got mad and told her fine i told her all the things she did wrong and told her to just take off her ring and go find someone that makes her happy. The following weekend I went to see my son again. We did the same things as before, we had a great time together and still made love to each other. SHe told me that she forgives me and still wants to be with me and that she wants to work US out. Well I get back home and throughout that whole week she did not bother to call me or email me at all. Now keep in mind that the whole time that we have been apart I have been calling her parents house everynight to talk to my son. So one night I asked her why she didnt call anymore or email and she said she didnt want to and that I hurt her with what I said to her(I understand, but she is hurting me more right now). We agreed to meet the weekend. I went there we had a great time together and still made love like always. The following monday I get back to work my boss gets a letter in the mail stating where they are trying to get child support from me. I called her Irate( I have been sending her 100 dollars per week since she left for CS). She told me that she did it because I made her mad.
Ok I will try to explain why I was so mad.
1st- she left me
2nd-she moved in with her parents who hate me and do not want her to have anything to do with me. Her parents have told her numerous times since all this has happened that if she has anything to do with me that they are going to take my son away from her. So she is now doing anything they say to please them but at the same time she is forgetting about me. Her parents want US divorced so she wants to get a divorce to please her parents. When I am with her she tells me she does not want a divorce but as soon as I come back home she wants a divorce.
3rd-Her parents are telling my wife that I cannot take my son back to where I live and that if I take him to where I live they are going to take him away from her.
For the past 2 weeks or so I have been being nice to her on the phone. I have been going to church on sundays and it is helping me come to terms with myself. I love my wife very very much and deep down I think that she still loves me and wants to be with me, But on the other hand I cannot deal with the pain that my son is going through for very much longer. I am very close to telling my wife that I no longer am interested in dealing with this relationship anymore and that I will be there for my son.
Please read all this and tell me what I need to do to either try to fix the relationship or end the relationship. I still love her. She is my first true love and I am very lost and hurt. I have to fix alot of things in my life and since she has left me it has hit me hard that I need to change. I am willing to do anything for my Wife and my son.
There are more details that I left out but im trying to make this story as short as possible.