Should I leave


#1

My Husband & I have been married 22 years. I work & he works - he told me 2 weeks ago we are done & needed to move forward with divorce. there is a lot more to tell however too much to list this was a slow burn the past 5 years not overnight.
He has done past things for the trust to erode in our marriage, but I always stood by & quite frankly thought we would always be together, I don’t want the divorce however because of my commitment to us. I am smart enough to know you cant make someone want what you want. So…
Question- Do I stay, & wait or do I leave & get my own place with our child (14). He wants me to stay to pay all of the bills because he doesn’t make as much due to his lack of responsibility & behavior in the past.
I hate being here with him - so lonely & hurt - we have been in separate living areas 2 weeks & this is not the first time he has moved to another room.
What can I do? it hurts to much to stay, but I don’t want to risk losing any rights I have on property etc…

Desperate for answer…


#2

You should attempt to get an agreement about the division of assets, support, and custody in place prior to physically separating. If he can’t afford the residence without your assistance, you should not leave because are legally obligated to continue paying for the house and may be forced to pay the mortgage and rent elsewhere if you want to protect your equity. If you don’t want to stay, you could come to an agreement to place the house on the market.

It really sounds like you need to have a consultation with an attorney in your area to discuss all the intricacies of your case and determine what your best plan of action is.