My spouse and I have been married for 14 years. I caught her starting an affair the first time 2 years after we were married. I forgave her for that. Our son was 18 months at the time. Then about 2 years ago she contracted genital herpes, I confronted her about and she said she didn’t want to talk about it. We have not slept together for the past 10 years and I have been faithful. Now I’ve recently caught her again starting another affair. Only reason I’ve stayed with her this long is because of our son who is now 13 years old. My question is that the fact she has a STD and I do not would this be enough proof of adultery or would I need more.
A person’s being diagnosed with an STD, could be enough to prove infidelity, however, in this case the 2 year time period that has passed could be deemed to mean that you have forgiven her for that affair. If you suspect she is having another affair, I suggest you hire a PI to collect evidence to support your allegation.