You may change the locks. He left the residence, and he can be charged with domestic criminal trespass if he comes back without your permission. Make sure you notify him (in writing preferably) that he’s not welcome back in the home, though.
What you do with his personal property is your decision. It’s probably best to arrange a time with him that he can come and get it, and then you’ll be finished with that unpleasant task.
You may have more than just an alimony issue. You could also have a property issue. It’s called equitable distribution. You can read more about it on our website. Regarding the alimony, it sounds as though you may have a legitimate claim there. When deciding whether to spend the money to retain an attorney, you must evaluate not only the cost of hiring the attorney, but also what not hiring one could cost you.
You also should consider pursuing a claim for something called post-separation support, which you can think of as “temporary alimony.” PSS is a mechanism to make your husband pay the bills you speak of.
You can move to another state without losing your rights to alimony, divorce, etc. in North Carolina, but you have to file here before you move or your spouse has to live here when you file.
My advice is to go to an attorney and sit down with him or her for a consultation. Most attorneys will sit down with you for an hour or so for a minimal fee, and then will give you an opinion about what you should do.
And one last thing. If you haven’t filed claims for alimony, PSS, or Equitable Distribution (property) before you or your husband obtains a divorce, you lose your right to those things. Remember that.
David L. McGuire
The Rosen Law Firm
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 200
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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