I honestly know how you feel about this, as many of us do. But I can tell you from experience, if you focus on your children, live your life to set an example for them, and take care of yourself…a year from now…sitting back and watching it come back around to her is the best kind of justice.
I’ve seen things come full circle for my ex and my husband’s ex and I can tell you that it’s not a terrible feeling. I’m not a vengeful person but I believe that you “pay” for your wrongs. Especially when you have hurt someone else for no other reason than because you can. So, while I don’t believe that it’s my place to keep score so to speak, nor do I enjoy another person’s misery, I have taught myself not to feel guilt or remorse when things do come back around and it’s time to pay.
My husband has said many times that if it weren’t for his children he would have packed up and moved off to save himself the humiliation. His ex left him for another man, had 4 boyfriends in as many months, and then when we started dating wanted to take the boys from him and blame me for their marriage not working out. To this day she still blames me for this. His boys are the ones that made the decision that they didn’t want to have to live with one parent or the other so he settled for joint custody.
The thing to remember with those close friends and family is that they know you and they know what kind of father you are. You know the truth of what happened in your marriage. Keep in mind that it does get easier and eventually, it will all come back around…
Take care and we’re here for you!