I have joint custody of my 14 year old son. Since my divorce 5 years ago, I have been unable to stop my ex from simply coming to my house unannounced to either bring my son something or for my son to retrieve items from my home. This happens quite often and there have been times when my son walks in and literally scares me to death because I was unaware that he was coming! Don’t get me wrong! I love my child very much and my home is his home, but when you’re not expecting someone in your house, it can be frightening!
I have requested numerous times that I receive notification. Sometimes my son will give me notification, but sometimes he forgets and sometimes, my son is not even aware that his father is coming by! (Dad calls him on the cell phone outside of my house!) According to the Orders, neither one of us can get out of the car or be outside when the “drop offs” occur. On Friday, as I arrived home and just getting out of my car, here comes the ex, unannounced, and just a few feet away from me. I sent him an email requesting, once again, that I receive notification if he was coming by for any reason, but I doubt it will help. I have never, never done this to him. Advice? Thanks!