Visitation

North Carolina Divorce Law Divorce and Separation Answers
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Dear whome30:

Greetings. I think that you have two options:

  1. Send her the schedule that you agree upon. Get her agreement to the schedule in writing (maybe by e-mail). Include in the schedule that if either party forfeits or misses a scheduled visitation that they will be responsible for reimbursing child care expenses within 15 days of being provided with documentation of the same. (Make sure to pay by check or credit card for the child care then).

  2. File an action for custody and get the court to award a schedule.

If you can both agree on a schedule, you may want to have an attorney draft it up into a consent order for you and then you can have the court enforce the schedule. Thank you.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
919.787.6668 main phone
919.256.1665 direct fax

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Charlotte, North Carolina 28262
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I have a separation agreement with my Wife that states Visitation is as liberal and reasonable as the parties agree. I have SOLE custody of both children and have been having problems with her not showing up and changing her “schedule”

What are my options. It is a big inconvenience to me when she cancels a visit (sometimes by calling at the time she is supposed to be there). How can I make her be responsible for her kids and take them when SHE says she will be there. I am also trying to get her to take the kids during the summer but she says she can’t because she works (well so do I but I work it out).

How should I deal with this - I know it is a weird situation - a mother who does not visit ENOUGH. She seems to think that “as the parties may agree” means that I have to do what she says. How can I get a more stable agreement where we both SHARE responsibility for the kids. I am sure she would not sign any agreement so can I go to court to work it out - should I stop visitation to force her to work it or what .

Confused. John