I’m sorry your husband went through all that. I hope everything goes his way.
My ex left the state June 2008 and moved back home to IL. He has lived there this whole time. You say I need documentations, What kind of documentation? I do have alot of text messages of stuff but don’t know how to get it off my cell phone. I have emails etc, and even stuff from his present girlfriend saying some un true stuff about me and true stuff about them. Even spending time with my son and being with my ex while we were still married. (I don’t care about them being together for our marriage was over the day I kicked him out).
I do know that my ex is going to try and attack my husband. My husband and I didn’t do anything while I was still married to my EX. Yes we went out but was with a group of friends and the kids. Yes, my husband bought a home for the kids and I, because my ex and I’s lease came up and I had to move. My ex is going to try and use that against me in court for custody.
He is going to try and use against me about me being married before him and having 6 kids to raise. I’ve raised them this far so what is the differences of con’t it until they are 18. My oldest is 16 yrs old and my youngest is 2 yrs old. He is going to use that my youngest was conceive during the marriage, but he fails to forget that we were seperated and I told him about it when we got back together and he said to just wait til she is born but I needed to not ever speak to the man that I thought would also be the father. I stopped talking but he didn’t stop his stuff that he was doing against our marriage, so it lead to me kicking him out.
But he goes home to IL and starts dating, bar hoping, etc, and the only proof I have, I can’t use because his family is scared they will be yelled at, controlled, disowned, etc by him and his mother. It got so bad that his grams blood pressure sky rocketed and she became ill over his misconduct. He controlled her so badly and didn’t respect her. But see you say documantation but I don’t have 100% proof because he lives in IL. It’s all hear say.
He said he hired a PI and told me that my husband vehicle was in my driveway at our old house. (this is when my husband and I, were friends only) I told him go ahead and use that because you knew so and so was going back home and I had the vehicle to use because my vehicle had a flat tire. I have the flight information to proof it. The Ex didn’t say another word after that. I was honest with the EX and told him that I was doing this. Yay maybe I shouldn’t have but he was still my seperated husband at the time.
I am scared of court and i’m not going to lie about it. I am a good mother and feel I’ve been the soul care taker of our son, even since he was born. The ex never got up with him, never took care of him. He didn’t even go to the hospital after our son was born and visit him when he was in NICU for two weeks after being born. It seemed as though the computer was more important than the wel-being of our son. Our son actually died twice in the NICU, he didn’t even show concern but now since our son is 3 now, he acts like he cares to a point. His family tells me it is a control factor. That since his father did it to him with his own mother, that he should do it with me. His mother is trying to do everything in her power to have the ex like her again. So, she is pushing him to get custody of our son.
It even got so bad of them contacting my husbands family lying about me and I had to send her proof of the truth. She still doesn’t believe me because all the court doc’s, police reports, DSS report are all changed by me in her eyes. I don’t understand how that can be done when i don’t only have 1 copy, I have about 5 to 6 copies of each and every documantation there is. I even gave her the court web sites to read for herself but she still thinks I can go on the courts web sites and change the wording on the courts system. Things are that bad. If I had a full day to speak to this forum I would, but I can’t take up their time.
My main thing is, If i have been the primary care taken since Feb 2008, (matter of fact since he was born) will I lose custody of my son. Will the judge say that my son has to move to live with his father in IL when this is his home here in NC? My son has not only me but his siblins which they are all close to eachother? The ages are, 16,15,13,10,6,2, and my son is 3? I pay for everything and even his daycare cost, ex doesn’t. Yes he pays support but he is a little bit behind on that. The support doesn’t even cover one months daycare, It’s only 450.00 a month. Will I be held in a bad light that I quit my job and went back to college fulltime? Ex doesn’t even have a job, but this month starts school on being a truck driver. A truck driver travels around alot and it could be a day, two, or ever a week of being away from home.
I come on here because it cost me everytime I have a question for the attorney. I have spent so much money that it is starting to hurt me. I have to have $1,100 more pay to attorney before Dec 4th. There goes Christmas for the kids, and the Ex doesn’t even care! I do care because that is a special time for the children.