I never knew a month can pass so fast. It has my stomach in knots. As you know Erin court is next month and as I say this I really would like to know a few things to ease the knot from my stomach.
A. Since Feb 2007, I have had temp custody of my child with very little visitation from the father. He took our child for maybe 7 weeks in the yr. 2008. He had our son 11 weeks (some of which he refused to bring child back to me) in 2009.
B. I kept the rental we had until the end of the lease (no choice in that matter), got another home and still living here, 1 yr today.
C. I have children from my past that live with me, and then also our son and another daughter from someone else. Yes got pgnt with her while we were seperated for the 4th time during our marriage. But we talked and we made promises and I kept mine but he didn’t his.
D. I married my best friend and we are going strong and con’t with each and every day that passes. Kids love him as well as he loves them. We didn’t do anything but stayed as friends for a long time.
E. Husband bought this home for the kids and I, because my lease was about up and he wanted to make sure we had a home. I paid the bills for this home. Yes, he would be here off and on but we didn’t share a bedroom together. It was like in a sense having a roommate. Now does this have any barring on custody?
EX was with someone physcially and mentally after we seperated. I know two wrongs don’t make a right. But seperations papers were signed and in the courts.
F. Ex is now engage to the women he was with while we were still married and he got together with her not to long after we seperated. He thinks they should get custody to raise my son because I have other children (6 total including son in my home). He feels that our son would be better off and loved more if he was with him. I love and care for my child all the same. No one is left out or alone. We are a family and do alot of family things together.
G. Ex feels that my past before him (being married before and the kids) will put an impact on the custody case and he will get custody. He also thinks that me letting one of my boys live with his father will hurt my custody as well.
H. I will take my children to the Dr/Hospital if they are sick, get a cut that I feel needs to be looked at, problems I see fit to be seen by a Dr, etc. He didn’t even take our son to the hospital when he got bite in the side of his cheek by a dog this past summer during his visitation. NO it was not a huge bite, but he did get a hole in the side of his cheek and now has a scar. I wasn’t even told about this until about a week or so later when I saw my son on web cam and asked what was on his face. I pretty much tell the Ex everytime our son goes to the Dr/Hospital. He will be so mean to me about it too. I thought as a mother it was my duty to do so.
I. My ex beat one of my children and left major brusing. He did have a court ,but judge found him not quilty. But he still did it. He was mentally and physically abusive to my other children and I have DSS reports on that. Our son won’t even talk to him on the phone, (all the 6 times he has called him since the last week of Aug when I got my son back). He doesn’t call to see how he is doing either.
I am scared because court is coming up fast. I do believe that I wouldn’t lose custody but there still is that one chance because I have other children. (so he says). Our son is very happy here and in a stable home. Siblins love and care for eachother.
Ex moved to IL at the end of June 2008. I have been the primary parent of our son. When we went to court in Aug 2008, all he wanted was two weeks in Sept and two weeks in Nov. Yes, he didn’t return child and was very mean with it on all his visitations time and was wrong for doing it. He went way over and there was nothing I could do about it. I couldn’t up and leave and leave my other children here to go get my son.
Now in saying all this and you being an attorney, what would you say to me?