For the parties involved, separation and divorce are very emotional. Threats are used on both sides to persuade, disuade, throw guilt at…whatever possible. The person unhappy is afraid to leave, yet unhappy to stay.
However, as far as NC is concerned-marriage is a business contract when it comes to money and how things are split up. They dont’ care about the emotional aspect. If you leave, and your wife has not worked during the marriage, then she is eligible for alimony. You would also have to pay Child Support.
If you cheated during the marriage-yet stayed married, then your wife ‘forgave’ you according to the law. That has no impact on child custody or visitation. The misdemeanor-I’m not positive, but I dont’ think that has any bearing either (not knowing any more info than you provided). Hiding money: I guess they’d find it in a discovery credit check. If it’s cash-then she would have to have proof. She can’t just claim you hid money.
Bottom line is that you will have 2 households that you’re paying into. For the person who is leaving due to unhappiness-it is hard financially and seems unfair. To the person who has been left-it is a ‘look at what you’ve done to my life and our children’s life’ and there could be a certain amount of ‘revenge factor’ in the whole process. BUT it is hard being a single parent too–trying to make ends meet on a less household money.
Each case is different. I have seen both sides-good and bad.
I would get some legal advice. Make a list of questions before you go and get a consultation. Most lawyers will give you an hour. It will be good money spent.