Greetings. First, I recommend that you hire a private investigator to determine why your spouse has left you. I think you will find the answer shortly after hiring the PI. We have a recommendation at the following link for great PIs in our area:
Now, if he has left you and you are dependent, you are entitled to alimony. You will need to retain an attorney as soon as possible to help you negotiate for alimony and child support sufficient to meet your needs until the children go to school. No, child support is sent to you and you direct what it is used for. My advice is to get an attorney, get armed with information, start negotiating with your needs and your children’s needs in mind.
I am not ruling out reconciliation for you and your spouse by telling you to protect your interests. I am ruling out you having to plead with your spouse for funds and act out of desperation in the future if you retain an attorney and start to negotiate now. Best of luck.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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