Dear Chandraalley & Fairiedust:
Greetings. First, I believe that you may want to try family counseling. Often parties marry that compliment each other, but when they have children they cannot agree on how to raise them, discipline them, or reward them. Sometimes one parent is too harsh and the other parent is not good with discipline. All of a sudden the children become confused and the parents are working against each other.
If counseling is not an option, my suggestion is that you contact an attorney to assist you in drawing up a separation agreement which includes child custody terms. Once the separation agreement negotiations begin, usually the living arrangement will change in one way or another.
No matter what, remember that children are resilient. It is best to co-parent whenever possible.
If you believe that your children are being harmed, I agree with fairiedust that you should enroll them in counseling, if you cannot agree with your spouse to all attend family counseling. Best of luck!
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney at Law
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 200
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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