My husband of 4 years abandoned myself and our 3 year old autistic daughter 9 months ago. He cut us off financially and refused to even speak to me. A few months later he out of the blue filed for custody. We attended mediation and discussed my relocation out of state. I have always been a stay at home mom and he worked to support us. Because he cut us off financially and left us with thousands in overdue utility bills, my daughter and I could no longer afford to stay in our home, which I purchased with my own money before we were married and is solely in my name and currently for sale. We were forced to move out of state as I am not from NC and have no family there. I informed the mediator of the situation before we left and offered my husband very liberal visitation despite his history of domestic violence. He refused and I never heard back from him or the mediator, whom I provided this information to in good faith hoping for a civil resolution. I did not suddenly leave unexpectedly, I waited 6 months after he left and cut us off and I could no longer afford to pay our utilities. My daughter and I had no choice other than to become homeless, which was obviously his plan.
My husband knew he was forcing us to leave the state yet waited until after I left to lie to a judge and obtain a custody order. I was never served notice of any hearing, nor has he served me with said order.
He is a narcissict and has no love or concern for our daughter. This whole thing is about him not wanting to pay child support. I applied for child support, he refused to cooperate and had his attorney continue 2 hearings for child support until he got a judge to sign an order in his favor and now of course NC will no longer assist me in with the matter of child support. I should mention that I recieved an email from him a few weeks after he abandoned us stating he would provide us with $1000 per month and he has never done so. I have documented everything since he left; calls to the Sheriff, his threatening calls and messages, all of it.
This man abandoned us as if we never existed, refuses to support our daughter, and refused any and all of my offers of visitation. He has had no contact with us for 9 months now, by his own choice.
I did obtain a restraining order at one point because he began threatening and harassing me once I accepted his silence and no longer begged him to communicate with me. I did not pursue it after several months of his attorney postponing the hearing because at that point I was forced to leave. He is a very sick individual with a history of violence, drugs and alcohol and an extensive arrest record.
Can anyone offer advise on how to handle this type of situation?