I’m not going to say things have been easy, because they haven’t. I wanted to seek advice on this.
For awhile my husband and i have had issues. As we are all human I have made mistakes. As has e. Yet I’m held at a higher regard somehow.
I’m the only one that works, drives, and so on. And he has always insisted we had a partnership, though it never felt that way. When a incident between us caused a big fight a few years ago, causing us ti be late to my grandmothers funeral, I struggle to forgive him for a preventable fight all because he didn’t want to go. This past year as I try to better myself, and care for my self for the first time and suddenly I am untrustworthy. Though the reason is unclear
I’ve tried talking to him, about how I feel, and then get told I’m wrong and that’s never the case
I’ve tried asking for marriage counseling, only to be told that it would be a waste of time and we don’t need it.
So I’m at a point that i no longer want to try
The thing is I don’t hate him, I still care for him but I believe after a year of thinking that this is the best route. But how do I come about ending a nearly 10 year relationship, when he doesn’t even listen normally, I am afraid that when I tell him it’ll be like when I spoke on how I felt, which was leaving me feeling gaslight. I also don’t want to hurt him, but continuing this way is hurting us both the longer I stall
You can present him with a separation agreement, hire a lawyer to send him a letter and have all communication with him, or you can simply move out (although certain plans and precautions will need to be put into place before moving out).
You don’t have to give a reason for a separation or divorce, and the law does not require there to be fault or for you to present evidence of a reason as to why a marriage is being dissolved.
You may find one of our free Webinars will be helpful as you begin the separation process. The webinars are presented live a few times a month (one was just presented yesterday and the new dates have not been updated just yet) and they go over the basic information you need to know regarding separating, divorce, equitable distribution (property), alimony, custody, and child support.
Anna Ayscue
Attorney with Rosen Law Firm Cary • Chapel Hill • Durham • Raleigh • Wake Forest
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Although I know this, it feels wrong? Not to at least tell him. Sure out marriage is ending, and that is the hardest truth I have ever had to swallow. But would it be wrong to at least explain to him instead of getting up and leaving?
It is not wrong to explain your reasoning for a separation and divorce to your spouse, and this is acceptable if you think that is the best way to handle the situation.
Anna Ayscue
Attorney with Rosen Law Firm Cary • Chapel Hill • Durham • Raleigh • Wake Forest
Rosen Online | Unlimited confidential access to a North Carolina attorney for $199/mo - click here
The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service only, a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action. The information posted on this forum is available for public viewing and is not intended to create an attorney client relationship with any individual. These answers are provided for informational purposes only, a person should consult with their own individual legal counsel before taking any action that could affect their legal rights or obligations.