He says there is no other woman, but


#1

Dear Fed UP:

First, I want you to know that you have some options. You should not move out until after you speak with an attorney and decide that is the best option for you. You may also want to seek the assistance of a private investigator since I agree with you that there may be someone else.

Since this is the emotional section of our forum, I would like to offer an idea. Why not go out and buy yourself new clothes? Go workout every day. Begin to appreciate yourself for the strong backbone of the family which it appears to me that you are. Make him think twice about what he is doing! Best of luck.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney at Law
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 200
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
NCDivorce.com
919-787-6668

The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action.


#2

Well - I went to see an attorney this past week and feel wonderful! I discovered I have many more rights than I thought! And I have every right to stay right in my home…it is mine too after all. And I feel certain that because of my husband’s actions as of late, that if it came to a separation, custody of our son would be with me. I hate to think this final, but I need to begin to be realistic.

Thanks for your words!

Everything is gonna be alright…


#3

And I did find there was an outside party - his cousin who is a miserable, conniving person anyway. She has been putting ideas in his head. She gave him the number to an attorney and encouraged him to put me out. She told him that I was not entitled to anything - and he was listening to her. She is not a happy person and wanted to place her misery in ours. By reading your info on your website, I was able to learn about an outside party interferring in your marriage and informed her very strongly to back up. Being married is hard enough, without having someone else encouraging you to leave.

Your website rocks! Thanks for everything.

Everything is gonna be alright…


#4

I always hope that meeting with an attorney is an empowering moment in someone’s life. Keep your positive outlook and everything will “be alright”

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney at Law
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 200
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
NCDivorce.com
919-787-6668

The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action.


#5

Janet Fitts - I did seek more information through a private investigator - ME!!! I discovered through his cell phone records that there is definitely another woman - a long distance relationship, but he had gone visit her in August. When I discovered this, they both denied it, but then I discovered a letter he wrote to her. When I confronted both of them, they both stumbled. When she found out that I found out - she dumped him - he retaliated against me by going for woman number 2 - who is right here in my hometown. He was ruthless - right up under my nose. My heart is broken, but I did file for divorce.
Thanks for your website and your advice.

Everything is gonna be alright…


#6

Dear Fed UP:

You should be so proud of yourself. Usually, everyone gives excuses for why they cannot go see an attorney, but you went and got all the information! You also confronted him and found out how truly pathetic he is.

It will not be painless, but you are so strong and will continue to only get stronger! Just wait to see what is next in store for you! Best of luck…and thanks for letting us know what is going on with you.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney at Law
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 200
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
NCDivorce.com
919-787-6668

The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action.


#7

Good job! Make him accountable for his behavior and actions. Change is coming…no matter if he or you like it or not.

Fight fire with fire, get in shape, look HOT! We must encourage eachother by overcoming the hurt with what our spoused have chosen to do. Remember, they are the weak ones who run off and choose to do this, they live in a fantasy world. It is not our fault or anything we did, this is what they chose. But we can chose to stand, be strong, and get throught this in victory. Hang in there, the best is yet to come!

Good luck.


#8

Dear freedom1 and FedUP:

It sounds like you have a good insight on where to go next!

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney at Law
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 200
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
NCDivorce.com
919-787-6668

The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action.


#9

All of a sudden, my husband is working out daily. He is looking to buy a camaro. He has invested over $200.00 in a new wardrobe. He has no time to spend with the family any longer…he works second shift and avoids time with us. He chose a new job which works him 7 days a week. (I think). He no longer kisses me when he sees me. No more public affection. He speaks ill to me publicly. All this has happened in the last month!

He came to me last week and asked me to find another place. This is my home. He and I renovated this home. All the furnishings we have gotten together. I am the one who decorated it - I am the one who keeps it up. He apparently has talked with a lawyer because he slapped me with “I can assume all the debts that we incurred during our marriage.” We also own over 40 acres. He and I had agreed in August that we would sell 10 acres so that we can get out and debt totally and be able to make more rational decisions of our futures together. This morning, he informed me that this is his land and that he will only sell the land once I leave.

I am totally devastated. I am in love with this man. We have a son together and I have a child from my first marriage. My man has gone completely goo goo. I don’t want to leave my home, but feel like I am forced to go look because of his cruel words and actions. He told me today that he never loved me, even tho he has pledged his love publicly to me several times over our marriage. Many people in our community look at me and say that we seem like the perfect couple. That may be so when Dr. Jeckle isn’t in.

I really don’t know how to feel - how to act. I don’t want to divorce this man, but he has just deserted all of us emotionally. I just started a new job too, and love it (thank goodness) but this is taking energy away from a very demanding position. He calls me at work and wants to talk about how soon I can get out.

Please help me in beginning this process.

PS - this is not the first time that he has lost his mind. We lost a house in Virginia before because he totally abandoned me and my daughter. At that time, we were not married. We got back together again and then I had his son. I have always loved him. But geez, I am so tired of this rollercoaster. Not sure if he is mentally ill or what.

Everything is gonna be alright…