I am sorry to hear about your situation. I think that you have some tough decisions to make. It sounds like your husband has not decided what he wants to do and wants “have his cake…” I think you may end up in a much worse situation, both emotionally and legally if you continue to allow him to come back and forth. One way or another, you have to decide if you want to remain married or not. If you feel he is not trustworthy, then perhaps the separation agreement, and a real separation are what is needed. You’ve indicated that he has lied to you repeatedly, but you are worried about confronting him. It sounds like he’s counting on that being your weakness, and will continue his confusing behavior until you put your foot down.
My advice is that you talk to a counselor about your emotional issues, and hopefully that person can help you figure out what you really want and need.
Shonnese D. Stanback
The Rosen Law Firm
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