How much information do I get to know?

In week to week custody’s when ex has moved my Children out of his apartment and into three different hotels and now says he is in a “temporary home” do I have the right to know.

  1. Where the home is?
  2. How many bedrooms
  3. if my 13 year old son has a room and bed to sleep in ( vs. sharing a bed ina. Hotel with two young girls)
  4. Who else is also sleeping in the house when they are there?
  5. how long he is staying at that home ( and can I ask to see the lease)

My ex does not answer the questions and says it’s “ personal” and he doesn’t have to answer.

(1) Yes. Both parents should always exchange residence addresses and notify the other of when there is a change. This is a common provision in custody orders.

(2) You don’t necessarily have a right to know how many bedrooms but this is pertinent information. A judge deciding custody won’t like if a parent’s residence doesn’t have enough beds and bedrooms for the minor children.

(3) You don’t necessarily have a right to know where the children are sleeping but this is pertinent information.

(4) You don’t necessarily have a right to know this but it is pertinent information in a custody case.

(5) You don’t necessarily have a right to know how long the other parent is going to be in one location but if you have a pending custody case without a permanent custody order, then asking to see the lease is a relevant request.

A judge will not like the fact that the father does not have stable housing and that he cannot maintain stable housing.


Anna Ayscue

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