Dear maryann:
Greetings. Yes, you may be able to sue her, but not him, for alienation of affections. First though, I would settle up your issues with your spouse and make sure not to sign off on a third party waiver, which will then not allow you to sue this person in New York. Best of luck.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney at Law
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 200
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
NCDivorce.com
919-787-6668
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