Hey Mal, I don’t intend on being rude or anything, but if it’s his stepddaughter, well, he might just have to let go. Especially since if he’s married to you now, she isn’t technically his stepddaughter, and doesn’t have rights to her.
Or unless you meant that she’s YOUR stepdaughter, and his daughter, and just made a mistake when typing. In that case, I feel for him and maybe she is being brainwashed by the other parent.
If it is indeed his stepdaughter (or ex stepdaughter), well, it is really nice that he cares about her and bonded with her. It honestly is. Then again, maybe her mother is concerned because the girl is a teenager and there are so many perverted men out there who are into the young fresh teen look… (how many of us have seen our grown husbands and boyfriends turn their heads when a 16 year old in short shorts walk by?) I AM NOT IN ANY WAY saying that is your husband’s deal, by no means, but in such a world, one tends to be suspicious. Perhaps the girl’s mother is that way, or she is just doing it out of spite and jealousy because her ex husband bonded with her daughter.
I don’t know, Mal… it would be impossible, I think, for him to gain visitation rights. When she turns 18, if she’s not already, it will be up to her if she wants to see her ex stepdad. So I don’t know what else to say…
If it’s his daughter, well then he needs to lawyer up and take it to court! It’s nice that you are concerned and interested in preserving their relationship, there’s not a lot of people out there like that.