Since “Athos” has moved this, perhaps more information is warranted…of a legal kind.
I disagree that I made “choices” that put me where I am today. It is not fair to say that I am the one responsible for everything that has happened to me.
Fact: At the time of separation, I had nothing whatsoever. The ex closed all accounts, cancelled credit cards, and took the cash from my purse.
Fact: Contrary to the advice given to me to “lose weight”, I weighed 87 pounds at the time of separation. I had to get him out before he succeeded in killing me.
Fact: I had difficulty finding a lawyer. I had no money with which to pay one.
Fact: The lawyer who finally agreed to take my case, took most of the assets I was awarded in the end.
Fact: I lived for two years on the minimum amount the ex was “willing” to pay in voluntary payments. During that time, I took odd jobs while trying to get my health back. After a year of this, I had no choice but to return to teaching at a much reduced salary because I did not have much experience.
Fact: I am 53 years old.
Fact: The PSS amount was reasonable after 2 years of hardly nothing at all from the ex. However, other expenses involved with the case ate up everything I had.
Fact: In the final analysis, the judge reduced my “reasonable expenses” by over 2,000.
Fact: I did not receive 50% of the property.
Fact: I received no attorney fees.
Fact: I was ordered to pay 50% of all extracurricular and medical expenses for my son.
Fact: The ex retained exclusive control of the childrens’ accounts. He uses these accounts for expenses he incurs for the children. I have no say whatsoever.
Fact: I have been ordered to pay my ex 200.00 a month in child support.
Fact: The income differential is over $30,000 per month.
Fact: The ex uses his money and clout to take me to Court over whatever he can find to take me to Court over. I believe most judges would tell him to “get out of my Courtroom” with this, but I was ordered to take my child to a tennis tournament on my custodial time that the ex had arranged. It was classified as an “emergency hearing”. It involved going out of town and staying for a week with all expenses incurred by me. The judge told me that if I didn’t take my child, “he would remember it”.