Stay at home dad

I had same situation in reverse, stay at home mom, I even ended up cancelling my private policy insurance. When we finally seperated (1 year ago), I was left with bad credit,(he filed bankruptcy 7 yrs ago which I had to sign off on too) no “job” in years and a new address as we sold the marital home because of course I couldnt get a loan to buy his equity out. I went to get a car because the transmission in my older model van went caput and couldnt get financing without a cosigner because I had been at my current job for less than a year (at the time) and in my current residence for less than a year. My advice is to start taking care of yourself immediately even if it means day care for the kids. Before he moved out my ex secretly changed his direct deposit to a newly opened account in his name only and I had a lot of checks for utilities, etc that I had written bounce. He had everything turned off (as is his right according to the courts) and I had to scramble to come up with multiple deposits for utilities (since I had not had any in my name in 15 years). Don’t put yourself 2nd and get caught in this situation.

Dear Lovinblind:

Greeitngs. You need to ask more specific questions. Clearly you can separate, ask for post separation support, alimony, child custody, child support, and equitable distribution. I am not sure what else you are asking. Thank you and Happy Halloween.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Law Firm

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I became a stay at home dad when my wife and I agreed that working in management at a large package delivery company, even though I made alot of money was not worth the amount of time I was away from the home. We agreed that for the family it would be best that I retire early. Its been about two years now and I realize it was all, for what it seems, just to have control. It started to get bad right from the beginning. I have raised my son from the time he was six monthe, he’s three now, and my daughter who is six months from the beginning. I also had to let alot of things about my credit go just to make it work and now it is horrible. I am completly reliant on her and really do not know what my options are at this point. I am very unhappy and need to know what my options are.

Brian Jones