I can’t seem to find anything on this matter in hand.
I have been told that my ex hired a PI. For what, is beyond me. He started having an affair when he got back home to his home state (we were still married). They just broke up at the end of last month. I started dating (kinda) I never slept with him, only talked on the phone, spend a group together with our friends a few times. I rented his home from him for the kids and I. Still never slept with him.
I have ton’s of picture’s on his life when he went back home to his family. Not only that, but also statement from his family on what he has been doing. Statements about where he was staying and allowing our son to watch while his daddy and girlfriend at the time were sleeping together in the same bed with my son in the room as well. Allowing this girl to be around my son, as daddy protrayed her to be with him (like he was use to seeing mommy and daddy).
I never asked for seperation support, or any money. How is it that he can use a PI against me for child custody? I’ve never abused my children, (unlike him). Never left my children alone, never been in trouble, don’t do drugs (never have in my whole life), I have a job (unlike him), and I’m a full time college student.
I just found out that his now ex girlfriend kick not only him out, but also my 3 yr old son. His family didn’t want him moving back in with them, so he moved into a small apartment with his two adult half brothers. So in speaking, there are 3 adult and 1 child in this small apartment. He has been staying there since the end of July maybe the very beginning of Aug. He never told me one thing.
He has given me every single excuse in the book to not bring my son back to me. My son was to be back at the end of July. Then it went to Aug 12th with a promise from his family that my son would be back home. That never happened! We made an agreement that I would meet him half way to get my son this past weekend, that never happened! I would really like my son back home. When I talk to my son, he cries saying he wants to come home.
My ex pulled this on me yesterday. He said that since he live’s in IL that I have to go by IL laws. I guess I’m either stupid or just way stupid! I thought since our order is in NC that he has to obey the order in hand. Am I correct in this?
He left NC, I stayed here. So, if he was told in the courts that he has to drive here to pick up our son and bring him back, doesn’t that apply? He states that since he lives in IL, that IL is that, I have to drive all the way there to get him.
Okay back to the PI stuff. I married my best friend. Yes, the man who I spent countless hours on the phone with during my seperation period, and went out with all our friends together. Now, can he use him against me in our custoday case? Can he use a ‘true’ man with nothing bad ever in his past? A sunday school teacher at that? If there is no solid proof of any inercourse (which there never was, until I had my divorce papers in hand)?
I know this may be odd to ask, but I’m really having to deal with a child (ex) here. He has gotten his family so mad that they don’t even care if he ends up in jail.
He has no job, won’t do anything but for sit around the house and be on the computer. Won’t go to school, and also has failed to return my son as ordered. Any understanding would be greatly needed.