Not a lawyer, just how I handled a very similar situation.
- I had both caller I.D. and answering machine. I would not answer the phone. If it was really important or an emergency he would leave a message and I could decide whether to call back or not…usually not. Of course, the first few times, he came to the house and I had to eventually call the law. He was sent packing with a warning(this is domestic criminal trespassing). When he realized I was not going to be controlled by him in my own house, this stopped. This is something YOUR HUSBAND needs to do. She has to realize she no longer controls his life and “he” needs to put a stop to it.
2.No, unless you’ll allowing them to do something that is harmful or dangerous, she has no right to dictate what goes on in your house.
My Ex would not give me an address where he was staying with the kids on his weekend because he had moved and didn’t want me to know(he had moved in with his girlfriend but didn’t want to tell me…I could have cared less as long as she was good to our girls). Since I was dealing with DSS, I called them and told them what was going on. I said I would go back to court if I had to because it was my right to know where my girls were staying. They agreed and I was given a physical address.